Posts Tagged ‘respect’


Respect or Run? What are Your Teaching your Kids?

September 5, 2009

“I’m not concerned with your liking or disliking me… All I ask is

that you respect me as a human being.”- Jackie Robinson

For awhile now, I’ve wondered if respect is a lost art. After the ridiculous hoopla over the President’s speech, I’m sure of it. Often my blogs find humor in life’s daily strife. Not this time.

I’m shocked, appalled, and disgusted with my fellow Americans who refuse to let their children listen to our President. Our PRESIDENT. Of the UNITED STATES of AMERICA. I agree with Jackie Robinson, it’s not about like and dislike. It’s about respect. The President of the free world deserves to be honored and respected. If you disagree, then disagree. That’s fine with me. In fact, that’s what makes this country so great. But don’t let your children suffer because you’re too terrified to listen.

We should be teaching our children to debate, to think, and to make objections. How can kids find their voice or even understand what they believe in, if they’re kept at home? Does hiding help?

And then, we circle back to respect. Throughout history, both conservative and liberal presidents have spoken to our children. And we listened. We honored the position with respect. In years past the population did not run and hide. What exactly are parents, who refuse to listen to President Obama, teaching their children? Are they the same parents who allow their kids walk off the football field because they don’t like the coach? Do their children walk out of math class because the teacher gave a tough test?  Elders, teachers, coaches, parents, and presidents deserve respect. Dislike and disagree. But listen with respect.


Dalai Lama’s 3 R’s and Coach Jay’s ABC’s

March 24, 2009

Respect for self, respect for others, responsibility for all your actions. -Dalai Lama

People ask where I find my “snowballs of wisdom”. They ask if I spend hours on the Internet. Do I have a book? How do I choose which quote to use, they ask.

The truth is, I find them everywhere. Magazines, cereal boxes, books, greeting cards, and even bubble gum wrappers are just a few places to find inspiration. Today’s snowball came from my 6-year-old’s ski coach. I may have mentioned once or twice, that my kids race on a stellar team. Stellar, not because they are Olympians, although some of them are, but because they invoke a philosophy for the athletes that goes way beyond skiing.

In today’s mail, a letter came from Coach Jay. He thanked his little athletes for being good skiers and great listeners. Attached to the letter was a packet of quotes. He called them pearls of wisdom (good thing he didn’t steal my line, or I would have had to challenge him to a snowball fight). Coach Jay sent sixteen quotes in all. Reminders of life’s important messages for his 5 and 6-years-old. Now that’s coaching.

Olivia reminds us about Coach Jay’s three R’s from the Dalai Lama. She ‘kindly’ tells her brother that being respectful is not throwing a Wii stick across the room. When her older sister tells her she’s tattling, Olivia objects. It’s about respect, she says. And she’s right.

As parents, we all want what’s best for our kids. Being best is not about winning the championship basketball game or going to the World Cup. Raising children is more about developing character and helping kids succeed in whatever life tosses their way. Finding teachers, coaches, and babysitters who help parents in this daunting task should take precedent over the big win.

In his letter, Coach Jay quoted Mother Theresa, William Shakespeare, Henry Ford and Sophocles to name a few. He also quoted himself. Remember your 3 R’s….respect yourself? He does, and it shows. Here are Coach Jay’s ABC’s for his little athletes:

A- avoid negative sources, people, places, things and habits

B- believe in yourself and succeed

C- consider things from every angle

D- don’t give up and don’t give in

E- enjoy life today, yesterday is gone and tomorrow may never come

F- friends and family are hidden treasures, seek them and enjoy their riches

G- give more than you planned to

H- have major league fun

I- ignore those who try to discourage you

J- just do it

K- keep trying no matter how hard it seems, it will get easier

L- love yourself first and most

M- make it happen

N- never lie, cheat or steal, always strike a fair deal

O- open you eyes and see things as they really are

P- practice makes perfect

Q- quitters never win and winners never quit

R- read study and learn about everything important in your life

S- stop procrastinating

T- take control of your own destiny

U- understand yourself in order to better understand others

V- visualize it and focus

W- want it more than anything

X- xcellerate your efforts

Y- you are unique in all God’s creations, nothing can replace you

Z- Zero in on your target and go for it

Thanks Coach Jay. I think you just won the snowball fight.