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January 4, 2017



I plan to march. On January 21, 2017, millions of women across the country will be marching to express their voice and taking part in the Women’s March on Washington, while other will march in sister cities around the world. Some people criticize us for being anti-democratic, sore losers, and pinheads, but none of those tags are true. I won’t be marching to protest the vote. I will be marching because women matter. I will be marching because I’m half the planet’s population, and I’m not going away. I choose to march because…

I march because I matter.

I march because I believe in freedom.

I march because I have a voice.

I march because I love my country.

I march because I have daughters.

I march because I have a son.

I march because I have a mother.

I march because I have sisters, a brother, a husband, nieces and nephews and cousins.

I march for my grandmothers and great grandmothers who marched before me.

I march for my father, brothers, grandfathers and ancestors who’ve past and can’t march.

I march because I represent marginalized voices.

I march because we matter.

I march because I love pure democracy.

I march because I choose to march.

I march because I believe choice matters.

I march because I am tired of people telling me how to feel and how to act.

I march because women should not be called fat, or ugly, or pussies.

I march because assault is not okay.

I march because women are more than contestants in a beauty pageant.

I march because I don’t want to be ranked by my looks or my f!#*$@ability.

I march because women have brains.

I march because I believe in good and right and equality.

I march because we need to heal.

I march because women should not be marginalized or minimalized to objects.

I march because women are not lesser human beings.

I march because women should not be afraid to be women.

I march because I love.

I march because I care.

I march because I am not afraid.

I march because I want others to know women matter.

I march because women should be able to choose what they do with their bodies.

I march because when the environment is ignored, women suffer first.

I march because women should not die in backroom, coat hanger abortions.

I march because I care about early childcare initiatives that help women.

I march because locker room talk hurts women.

I march because I have a right to feel safe.

I march because women should not be thrown into poverty because men got them pregnant.

I march because I have a vagina and am not embarrassed or ashamed to say it.

I march because women should be paid what men are paid.

I march because it is time to move forward, move beyond sexism.

I march because I need to feel hopeful about my future.

I march because I don’t want to feel terrified alone.

I march because women working together can transform the planet.

I march because I love and stand with my LGBTQIA, Muslim, Jewish, Hindu, Buddhist, Black, Brown, indigenous, disabled, ethnic, hurt, abused, and all of my sisters.

I march because we won’t move backward.

I march because we matter.

I march because I matter.

Join me. The organizers for the Women’s March on Washington posted this statement; “We stand together in solidarity with our partners and children for the protection of our rights, our safety, our health, and our families—recognizing that our vibrant and diverse communities are the strength of our country.”

If you can’t get to Washington DC, go local! There are over 30 states planning sister marches, including in Colorado. The event in Denver will be 9 am- 3 pm on January 21, 2017 at Denver’s Civic Center Park. For more information and other marches, check out:


Opinion Stirring and Gay Marriage Backlash

September 15, 2015

This past summer I was hired by The Summit Daily to write a regular opinion column. I won’t post them all on my blog (check the SD website if you want to read more), but from time to time, I’ll add a few. Opinions can make us nod or shake our heads, but almost always, they make us think. They stir something inside of us that creates a higher vibrational energy. My hope is that whether or not you agree, that after reading the piece, you’re motivated to write your own opinions. At the end of the day, I want this blog to support you in your own writing, so get stirred up and write away!

Revised from my column, Think Twice:

My oldest daughter attended Silverthorne Elementary as a first-grade student in 2003; at a time when gay weddings were not mainstream, but they happened. In fact, they happened in our family.

My sister-in-law and her partner were married in a civil ceremony in Oregon. Much to our chagrin, especially Ellie’s, they eloped. Like most little girls, Ellie dreamed of fairytale weddings filled with flowers—and little flower girls. To help ease her anger about being robbed a wedding, I suggested that she make a card for them. She did. Using glitter and glue, sparkles and markers, Ellie made a magnificent card of two women in two princess wedding dresses, holding hands and surrounded by wedding bells. After licking the envelope, she bounced her way to school, excited to tell everyone the news.

She came home in tears.

Her friends told her it wasn’t legal, right or even normal. The teacher and I had a chat. A few moms and I had a chat. Most importantly, Ellie and I had a chat. I tried my best to explain the legalities of gay marriage and politics to my 6-year-old, but it fell flat. She didn’t understand.

“Don’t you get married when you love each other?” She wanted to know. “How can someone tell someone else they’re not allowed to be together? There’s nothing wrong with more love in the world.”

I agreed. I still do. And finally, so does our government.

This past summer, the Supreme Court of the United States ruled that states cannot ban same-sex marriage. And with that decision, the country changed. Justice Anthony Kennedy wrote, “No union is more profound than marriage, for it embodies the highest ideals of love, fidelity, devotion, sacrifice, and family. In forming a marital union, two people become something greater than they once were.” However, the ruling was close (5-4), reflective of the country at large.

Prejudice surrounding gay marriage remains alive and well. In July, a

Denver baker took his case to the Colorado Court of Appeals, arguing that his religious views should be protected and that he should not be forced into making a wedding cake for a gay couple (reminding me of the Seinfeld ‘Soup Nazi’ episode—no gay cake for you!). All jokes aside, cases like these aren’t funny, and discrimination is not a laughing matter. Another anti-gay ballot initiative was filed this July, hoping to redefine all Colorado gay marriages as civil unions. Given the SCOTUS ruling, I don’t believe this will happen, but I’m am concerned about the intolerant and prejudicial thinking from citizens who refuse to accept the law.

In my hometown; Toledo, Ohio, a Municipal Court Judge refused to marry a same-sex couple. When they arrived, they were told that the judge on duty would not perform gay marriages. Toledo is not alone. There are a number of judges and religious clerics refusing to marry same-sex couples. The backlash has begun.

What makes people afraid? What is wrong with more love in the world? If a 6-year-old can see it, why can’t more adults?

For many, the argument against gay marriage is based upon the Bible, but life changes, and events that happened during Biblical times should no longer be used as a measure for today’s trials. We no longer feed people to lions. We no longer support slavery (at least legally). Some of us eat shellfish, and others get divorced. The stories in the Bible are hundreds of years old, and life has changed. I believe that Jesus would have been the first to accept and encourage gay marriage. In his day, he launched a radical practice of love, accepted the voice of women and children, helped lepers and the needy. He welcomed diversity. He welcomed love. It’s time for our society to accept change and forgo fear. WWJD? Support gay marriage, hands down.

Kudos to the many Americans who helped shift consciousness and to SCOTUS for ruling in favor of love and equality. Six-year-olds still might tease, but they can no longer say it’s wrong. Let’s hope the backlash against gay marriage and discriminatory beliefs are finally viewed as unacceptable behavior, and we can all move on.